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Emotional Well Being

Over our lifetime we experience a variety of emotions, from fear and sadness to joy and love. Some of us have moments of deep depression or overwhelming amounts of joy. Our emotions flow on an endless wave, sometimes shifting slightly from one to the next, and other times that shift is quick and unannounced or even unwelcome.  It is no different for those living with Alzheimer’s and dementia. 

Alzheimer’s and dementia have such an impact on people’s lives, emotionally, spiritually, financially, and physically. Some may become depressed and lose interest in all the things they used to love. Emotions become more difficult to navigate and control. Self-esteem is a fleeting memory. 

For those who have a loved one who is diagnosed with the disease, it is important to remember there are stages of the disease and at every stage that person you love is still there and they are still capable of feeling all the emotions they have in the past, as we do.  

At ExquisiCare, we monitor the moods of our residents and ensure they enjoy each day as fully as possible. 

Bill Ward, with Next Avenue, had the pleasure to interview two sisters about their experience with Alzheimer’s. They spoke of how their father’s Alzheimer’s had positive impacts on their lives and the life of their mother. Although the disease had a sad end, which it normally does, their father was still able to have a meaningful life and to better his relationships with those he loved. You can read their story here. 

Like with many diseases, there are support groups and classes that are geared towards those with Alzheimer’s and the people who love them. This can have an immensely positive effect on their emotional well-being. This gives caregivers a group where they can be open and honest to find the support they need to care for their loved ones. For those living with Alzheimer’s they have the opportunity to explore new hobbies and make new friends. In both situations, people living with Alzheimer’s still feel secure and confident in their lives. 

Sadly, not everyone is able to turn their diagnosis of Alzheimer’s into a positive and they struggle emotionally. They may lose confidence in themselves and fall into the stigma surrounding Alzheimer’s. This article from the Alzheimer’s Society, “The Psychological and Emotional Impact of Dementia” talks about both the positives and negatives not only for those diagnosed with Alzheimer’s but also for those who love them. 

It is important that when depression or apathy is recognized that it is responded to appropriately. We help our residents at ExquisiCare by:

• Encouraging pleasant activities that our residents can still enjoy, such as short walks or outings. 
• Setting realistic expectations. Anyone would become frustrated and feel discouraged if they could not meet the expectations of others.  
• Although we allow our residents to live their lives at their own pace, for example having breakfast when they are hungry, we do have daily routines. This provides reassurance and reduces confusion. 
• Music and pet therapy have a positive impact on the moods of our residents; our Life Enrichment Coordinator coordinates entertainment throughout the month 
• Our residents are seen by our physician on a regular basis. Our physician also meets with family members to discuss the health of our residents and what options might be considered. 

I challenge you to shift your focus away from the disease and instead focus on the new joy that can be found as you continue this journey with your loved one.